I'm going for a few tips .. I had once read from a book .. but already very long, I've forgotten the title and who the author .. but clearly I still remember very well the core of this tip .. soale three words still I hold till now .. Three said it had given its own meaning in my life, bringing major changes in the phases of my life several years ago ..
Three magic words are :
1. SORRY
sorry, Don't hesitate to say sorry. Maybe some people feel abstinence to utter these words, because a lot of assumption that people who ask for forgiveness would be considered weak, lost, or powerless ..
Really?
No! sorry to bring up the word humble nature, "Excuse me" allows us to accept ourselves circumstances .. as a human being, that it was impossible to escape from guilt.
"I'm sorry" can help us in the 'process of forgive' yourself - which in turn can bring to the process of 'forgive others'. "Sorry" does not mean losing, otherwise, sorry to make us learn to respect other people that will eventually bring 'unexpected victory' on us - "Sorry" to give a lesson that 'truth is a right for all people'.
In fact, sometimes "sorry" can make our enemies ashamed, ashamed of himself, ashamed of the arrogance and hubris that always he held during this (Especially if he really knows that the real blame lies with himself).
And do not be afraid to ask for forgiveness! and never worry about "Sorry" is not acceptable to you .. Is not in the deepest depths of every human heart, there will always be a desire to forgive and forgive others?
So .. Please do not hesitate to utter the word "Sorry" - and open your heart, and destroy that pride!
2. PLEASE
help, every people know, if we are social beings - beings who can not possibly be able to live alone without the other. So .. the word "Please" is the word 'very fair pronounced'.
"Please" makes us aware of the limitations that exist within us .. "Please" makes us 'more able' to receive ourselves - as it is. "Please" make us better able to see clearly .. what can and what we can not do - and in the further process this can help us to accept any shortcomings that exist within us.
Some people feel 'embarrassed' to say "please" .. why? because unconsciously we are 'educated' to become 'independent' .. SELF? .. NO! Independent does not mean we do not need others, independent does not mean being selfish and never involve anyone else. Self is a process of self discovery - and I know the word "Help" will be urgently needed to reach self-sufficiency .. and if not - you will be lost to mere selfishness.
Please do not hesitate to ask for help to someone .. did you know that in a person's heart would always be a desire to help others? that always comes up hope to be helpful and meaningful to others? Yup! This is a natural instinct given by God to every human being.
So .. respect others by asking 'please' to him .. make him feel valuable in your life, let him feel relieved and happy because it could help you .. Do not be ashamed to ask for help to others .. including the people you hate - because usually hate it will 'collapse' when love flows in a genuine relief.
3. THANK YOU
thanks, receive love? yup .. the words that we often forget when we receive help from others. Indeed, for some people - very difficult to say this. Why? because "thank you" need sincerity, "thank you" need a warm gaze, "thank you" needs a touch of love ... have we forgotten the things of this?
We must realize, that the actual assistance given to our people - whatever that is - will not be replaced. Many people try to 'give back' to others .. but often this is in fact gave birth to disappointment and even hostility.
Why? because there would be no reason that can be shortchanged .. eye can not be replaced by the eye - a tooth can not be replaced with dental - and life could not possibly be replaced with life!
What if that giving aid is not the people we know? what if that provided assistance are our parents? what if that giving aid is an angel? and what if that giving aid is God? Could we 'His reply?
The answer is simple: ABLE!
God has assembled two words for you .. THANK YOU! two words to represent them all. These two words have ever represented any replies given by the people around you. The words 'thank you' you say - to realize that the help which he gave was not shortchanged help - help which is very meaningful to your life.
How long have you begin to 'forget' to say these words to parents, friends, or God?
Thank you .. can make you learn to respect other people, can make you 'peace' - with others, with nature .. and with God ..
three words above is remarkable
- not able to change what might be possible
- three words that can change the entire life cycle for the better .. hopefully ..